This is probably one of the most unvocalized fears I get when talking boudoir with women. It often comes out as: “I’m not photogenic” If I had a quarter for every time I heard this statement, I’d have my own private island (but still doing what I do!). Or I hear this: “all the women on your site are so beautiful, I don’t look like them.” — This one breaks my heart into tiny little pieces.
To calm your nerves about this I have to draw on a video testimonial from one of my boudoir babes where she said: “you won’t be the one dud in 1000, you just won’t.”
Let me elaborate; we all have fears of not being enough, and that fear often manifests in the form of comparison. “I don’t look like her, my stomach isn’t flat like her’s, I have stretch marks, I don’t have a bum- the list goes on .” If any of these are ringing true to you, listen up -I’m about to poke holes in your objections:
“I don’t look like her” good, you shouldn’t. You look like you and you’re a precocious human being who is loved more than she knows. What you might think are flaws are really what’s beautiful about you. If your nose crinkles when you laugh and you hate it, stop– that’s frickin adorable. You have a scar? Awesome, it tells a story and has shaped who you are as a person, celebrate it. You have cellulite? I’m going to let you in on a little secret — everyone does, I mean it — every.one. And if you think all the women on my website look like models I bet each and every one of them would blush if they heard that. The women you see here have the same fears and insecurities we all do as women and 97% of them have told me they’re not photogenic. It’s up to me to coach each person into feeling confident in front of the camera, and if I can do that with them in their underwear just imagine how that can translate to real life afterwards.
You’re not photogenic? Let me tell you –you do not have to fit a certain mold or look a certain way to step in front of my camera (or any camera). My job and my love is to get you in my studio and show you that YOU are beautiful and yes YOU DO LOOK LIKE THAT — which by the way is not, “like a model” or “like her” it’s simply: stunning, beautiful you and all your perfect imperfections.